If you just can’t find the right ceremony music for your wedding or you’re really busy, you may be tempted to just ask your musician to pick something for you.
Don’t worry. All hope for having memorable ceremony music that reflects you is not completely lost (see Music That Reflects You) if you decide to do this! But there are a few things you should keep in mind before you ask.
Does your musician have the right experience to pick your music?
First, make sure the musician you will ask has experience with the kind of wedding ceremony you’ll be having.
If you hire a group of musicians that routinely play for outdoor or wedding hall ceremonies but have never played a wedding at your church (or even in a church), they won’t know what sounds good there and they might not have the same vision for the ceremony as you.
Tell them what you’re looking for
Second, be sure to tell them what moods and styles you’re looking for, even if it’s nothing more than just “quiet” or “festive”.
Give them something to go on or they’ll just pick their standard repertoire for you and this definitely won’t result in memorable music that reflects you.
Give them a good starting point
Next, is there music you’ve found during your search that is close to what you want?
If so, tell the musician and tell the musician what about the music isn’t quite right for you. This will give them a very good starting point.
A starting point like this rather than “I want something happy” will be much more likely to result in choices you’ll be pleased with.
Find out what they found!
Lastly, follow up with them! Don’t just ask the musician to pick something and never hear it until the ceremony.
You won’t get ceremony music that reflects you if you don’t hear the music before your wedding day and agree this is what you want. It’ll be the musician’s choices, not yours. It’ll reflect your musician, not you!
Share your thoughts
Are you thinking about asking your musician to choose some music for your ceremony instead of picking it yourself? Please leave a comment explaining why (is it lack of time? is it difficulty finding the right piece?).
If you’re a musician reading this, what is it you like to know when someone asks you to help select their music?
Your comments are always welcome and appreciated!
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Thanks for the info. It’s details like this that can really save your wedding day!