If you just can’t find the right ceremony music for your wedding or you’re incredibly busy, you may be tempted to just ask your musician to pick something for you.
Don’t worry. All hope for having memorable ceremony music that reflects you is not completely lost (see Music That Reflects You) if you decide to do this!
But there are a few things to think about before you ask to make sure you actually get results you’re looking for (and not simply offloading a task to someone else).
Does your musician have the right experience to pick your music?
First, make sure the musician you ask has experience with the kind of wedding ceremony you’ll be having.
Musicians that routinely play for outdoor or ballroom ceremonies but have never played a wedding at your church (or even in a church) won’t know what sounds good there and might not share your vision for the ceremony.
Tell them what you’re looking for
Second, be sure to tell them what moods and styles you’re looking for, even if it’s nothing more than just “quiet” or “festive”.
Give them something to go on or they’ll just pick standard wedding repertoire for you. This won’t likely result in distinctive, memorable music that reflects you (it’ll reflect them and their choices!).
Give them a good starting point
Next, is there music you’ve found during your search that is at least similar to what you want?
A starting point like this rather than “I want something happy” will be much more likely to result in choices you’ll be pleased with.
Share your thoughts
Are you thinking about asking your musician to choose ceremony music instead of picking it yourself? Please leave a comment saying why (is it lack of time? is it difficulty finding the right piece? lack of musical knowledge?).
If you happen to be a musician reading this, what is it you like to know when someone asks you to help select their music?
Your comments are always welcome and appreciated!
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Thanks for the info. It’s details like this that can really save your wedding day!
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